You're Not Attached To A Man, You're Attached To Love Itself.

Let me guess.

You're suffering through a deep heartbreak; whether that man pulled away, left you, betrayed you.. whatever it might be.

Regardless of who you are- there is a REAL reason this is happening to you.

And no- it has absolutely nothing to do with that man. Infact, it's not even that man's fault.

It's yours.

But before I blame you; let me take some blame for myself.

I am the perfect example of this.

My entire life I have cared about love. So fricking much. I grew up watching romantic movies, romantic shows, imagining scenarios, listening to music while fantasizing, creating a world in my mind and heart.. then crushes started.. obsessions started.. love started.. and with that followed heartbreaks as well.

Sound familiar?

I know not everybody is like this, but I am the type of woman where my entire world could be falling apart; I could be out on the street with absolutely nothing- I could be on the verge of death.. but as long as I have love, I will feel safe.

Emotionally safe.

I have felt this way my entire life... and I still feel this way.

And that's exactly why I'm suffering so much.

This is the exact reason why I fell so deeply in love. Why that man pulling away hurt me and shattered my world. Why my brain and heart has not let me move on despite so much time passing.

Why I can't imagine feeling happy ever again?

It's not even about that man.

It's about love.

L O V E.

This four letter word that the world shoves down our throat as the "best thing to ever happen to us" is actually the worst thing ever.. it's the thing that causes us the most pain in our lives.

It's the thing that makes our world turn up-side down.

It's the thing that makes us feel like we can't breath.

But guess what- we have become attached to this concept of love.

And that's exactly why Allah tests us with it.

No, that man did not break you because he is bad. That man broke you because Allah tested you. And this is the ultimate truth.

Even if that man didn't exist, another man would have broken you.. because Allah was going to test you with this no matter what.

Because you heart is deeply attached... to love.

And that is the core issue.

It took me my entire life pretty much to finally realize how this attachment has ruined my life.

Allah will not let his believers remain attached to anything false in this dunya.

Some people are attached to money, to image, to power, to status, to fame, to ... pretty much anything.

A lot of people are attached to love- when actually we are only supposed to be attached to our creator. That's the reason why we are here...

And if you are a true Muslim, if you are a believer in your heart- then you best believe, that if you're suffering through a heartbreak right now..

It's for this reason.

There is no other reason.

You were meant to go through this heartbreak.

You were meant to experience pain.

You were meant to learn this lesson.

There was no other way for your heart to finally let go and accept the fact that there is absolutely no one and nothing we should attach ourselves to...

besides our creator.

And until you learn this lesson... your own heart will keep breaking you.

I keep saying "you" here, but actually this is my story.

I believe in my soul that my heart got shattered by love... just so I can be an example to others on why you should never make "love" your god.

Only Allah is your god. And no man, no person, and no "concept" can replace that.